4 Moments That Help Make a Marriage

by Brenda Lomothe Coulomme at free images.com

Like a car engine needs oil to run, so the moving parts do not create lots of friction and melt down, so a marriage with all of its stress needs lots of love to keep it from burning down.

Love needs to be expressed daily to maintain the strong vibes and positive feelings between spouses.  If you allow bitterness and negativity to overcome your thoughts you are headed for sure trouble.

Years back we attended the Marriage Enrichment seminar by Faulkner and Brecheen.  In that seminar they shared four key moments in the day that help communicate commitment and love to your spouse.  They have been a part of our marriage ever since and I pray they can bless your marriage.  

At each of these times in the day find your spouse, give them a hug or kiss and check in on how they are doing.

• When you wake up in the morning.  I know you may have morning-breath and bed-hair but when you both are awake it is good to connect with one another.  “How was your night?”  “Good morning!”  Maybe just a smile, a soft pat or quick embrace to begin your day by showing you love.
• When you leave from each other.  Typically, one or both will be leaving the house for the day.  Before you leave, no matter how rushed you are to get out the door, find your spouse, give them a quick kiss on the forehead or lips, and wish them a great day.  This is a great time to be sure you are on the same page to your plans for the day and any important events that each need to know.
• When you arrive back together.  You may need to sit in the car for a few minutes and let the frustration of the day pass away so you don’t immediately kick the dog and yell at your spouse and kids.  The first thing you should do when you get back together is find each other and embrace.  “How was your day?”  “It is good to see you again.”  It can be a quick exchange, before you see to the needs of the house, but find each other first!
• When you are ready to go to sleep.  It is important to go to bed together, rather than separate, if possible.  But no matter the way you go to bed, always end the day, with a final kiss, hug, and “I love you.”  It would be great if this time would include a prayer together.

While everybody’s schedule is different, you should try to adapt these general thoughts to the routine of your marriage.  Four important moments each day to say, “I love you.” “I care for you.”  and “I am here for you.”  Try adopting this habit in your marriage and it can transform your relationship and your feelings for one another.